James 3:8-10
but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so.
2- For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body.
Words. As kids we used to say “sticks and stones may hurt my bones, but words will never hurt me.” How much of a lie is this?? Words can have such an impact on our lives. They can build us up or they can tear us down. We can be told we are worth something and have purpose and that we can succeed and we will more likely feel that we can do these things. However, if someone tells us that we are stupid, not worth anything, that we are in the way, losers, and so much more, we begin to believe it and these thoughts take hold in our minds so easily. WORDS HOLD POWER BEHIND THEM. How do we use this tool? Do we bridle this tool and use it with great discretion? Do we allow ourselves to say things without thinking? The tongue, just like anything else, can be used for good or evil. But, how do we use it? Do we use it for God’s glory at church or chapel, singing praises, but we leave and cuss as someone cuts us off or we complain about how terrible our life is, or we complain about our family or friends or not getting what we want? How often do we interrupt someone as they are pouring themselves out to us? How often do we say something like “I will pray for you” then walk away and forget? How often do we make promises then never intend to fulfill them? How often are we completely fine with deceiving our parents so that we won’t get in trouble? Or how often do we lie to our friends about what we have done, so that they won’t look at us differently? With the same mouth that sings praises to God, we do all these things daily at times.
Complaints. Life can be so difficult. So many problems can rise up at once. Everything can fall from around us. We feel like God has abandoned us. So, at these times we have a few choices; cry out, hitting our knees, knowing that if we seek God we will find Him, and begging for Him to restore us, to develop us; to rebel, we can just say that God is not there for us and we will no longer follow Him because He does not care; we can deal with it on our own, this won’t always work out, many times we get out of it by God’s grace, but believe that we got out by ourselves; or we can complain, telling God how bad everything is, complaining to friends about our problems, letting our problems take our eyes off of God because they are so huge, unlike God is in our minds. What do we do? What should we do? Family, we need to be people that hit our knees seeking our King. When times get tough, where do we turn?
Cussing. What comes out of our mouth can de a huge descriptor of who we are. If we talk about sports, we are likely athletic. If we speak about music, we are involved in music or really enjoy it. But how often do our words reflect our God? How often do we talk about Him, about His Word, about how great He is, like Him? But how often are we found using words like cuss words or words of complaint or words of gossip? Does this reflect our God? If we are children of God, our actions and words reflect Him, do these cuss, complaints, criticisms, and gossip bring Him glory?
Gossip. We are ONE body. We are children of God. Yet, so often we are quick to bash on fellow believers, to share their private news, to talk about someone. We need to listen to I Thessalonians 4:11 stating, “that you also aspire to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you.” We need to not desire to hear or speak about others, rather to focus on developing ourselves and not spreading news of others that is none of our business.
Words of belittlement. How can we walk around and bash on people for what they do and be ok with it? WHY are we able to do this might be the better question. This is a direct reflection of our heart and attitude. We need to encourage and love on people, REGARDLESS of what they have done, what they look like, or who they are. Jesus LOVED. We need to follow His example.
Our words are a direct reflection of our core self, do they glorify the One we claim to follow? If not, time to change that or decide who we really serve...
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